2nd Mother’s Day, IVF Update, and more…

This Mother’s Day was definitely different than my first without Lincoln. It was also better. I missed him terribly, as I do every day but was able to make it to church this year, and sang in the worship team. I was so blessed by my friends at church who wished me a Happy Mother’s Day. I know it’s hard for people to know what to say to me sometimes, especially when how can I have a happy day when my baby isn’t with me? I was actually surprised how comforting it was to be included. I still felt uncomfortable wishing others a happy mother’s day, as strange as that may sound.

When I was at work throughout the week at Afena there were folks who wished me a happy mother’s day, and it was nice just to enjoy the well-wishing without having to explain anything or get upset. It was nice to pretend, even if it was just for a second, that everything is normal.

We stopped after church at a local market to buy some flowers, and this sweet humming bird kept flying around me. Now, I love humming birds, but I can never get a good look at them! As this one kept flying all around me I couldn’t help but feel that this was my Mother’s Day gift from Lincoln. 

I wanted to take a moment to give everyone an update on our progress with our IVF journey. With our fundraiser in April we we’re able to raise just over $4000. With those funds we were able to pay the upfront cost of $3850 to the Genesis Genetics lab, who is creating from scratch our family’s personal Leigh’s Disease test, which is just mind boggling that they can even do something like that. We had a genetic counseling session with one of their genetic counselors who walked us through the process of how they create the test, which will take about 2-4 weeks to create. Once the test is complete, Genesis Genetics will notify us and our fertility doctor in Indy that we can proceed with the IVF process.

The next amount we will be raising funds for will be the upfront cost of the actual IVF procedure which includes the medications, egg retrieval, fertilization, implantation, and ultrasounds plus an additional final installment of $1000 to Genesis Genetics. This amount will be just over $8500.

We are planning a large rummage to raise funds about the end of June/July sometime. If anyone would like to donate items to sell we are currently accepting donations now, through the time of the rummage, which we will shortly be announcing the date.

SNEAK PEAK – We are also planning a scrapbook party fundraiser sometime this summer as well TBA.

We want to say an enormous thank you to everyone who has made a contribution towards making our dreams of growing a healthy family closer to a reality. I really can’t express how humbling this all has been. We are forever grateful as we keep plugging away at making this happen.

I hope everyone had a lovely memorial weekend last week. We spent the weekend relaxing with family, and were able to plant flowers around Lincoln’s memory tree. It was so beautiful!

   

  

 

 

Mother’s Day – Empty Arms, Full Heart

This is not how I imagined my first Mother’s Day would be… but who ever, when dreaming of their lives, would imagine such tragedy would be a part of their near future? So I join the ranks of mommies who have to experience Mother’s Day with their only child in heaven…

I’ve decided I am going to be gentle with myself today… I decided not to attend church today because I did not want to throw myself in that situation, seeing all the mommies with their little kiddies… just too hard right now.

I did get to experience one Mother’s Day with Lincoln while I was pregnant. I was so excited to be a mom, and couldn’t wait to meet my little fella. I dreamed about the future Mother’s Days where we would celebrate together, not knowing that this would be our only one. I’m glad that I had those days of unknowing bliss that I could dream of our life with Lincoln, even though none of those days will come to be on this earth. I am so thankful for Lincoln, and him making my dreams of motherhood come true.

First picture of mommy and Bubby after leaving hospital

First picture of mommy and Bubby after leaving hospital

Jeremy bought me this little statue for Mother’s Day, and it rings so true to my heart. I fought for Lincoln, and protected and cared for him with all my might while he was here with us. And while it was incredibly difficult, I know that the ultimate protection of him was giving him back to the One who had blessed me with him in the first place.

~ The Guardian ~

~ The Guardian ~

When we were told at Riley that it was time to stay by Lincoln’s bedside, I held him for hours that night. I didn’t know when would be the last time. I told him over and over again, that we had a bond that could never be broken. The connection between my son and I was so precious, so strong. I knew that even if he left this world, our hearts would always be one.

So, as I write, even though my tears are flowing and my hands are shaking, my heart is full. Full of love for my son, and full of the expectation and hope that we will be united again. And when we have that reunion, it will be eternal. So for now, my heart is already in heaven, because my son and my Savior are there.

Lincoln's Headstone

Lincoln’s Headstone